Love In the age of big data
Scientists Believe They Have Discovered a Simple Formula for Happy Relationships:
Once upon a time, in the Pony Expresso Cafe in Seattle, a man and a woman began that long to experience mysterious, but academically, we examined call love. The first stage is called "limerence". This is the spine-tingling, heart-twisting, can not stop staring-feeling when it seems as if the world stops swirling and time bends himself and takes a break before the power of your desire.
The man, a then 44-year-old University of Washington psychologist research named John Gottman, the woman was drawn wild mane black curly hair and their creativity. The woman, she was an amateur musician and painter as well as a psychologist, as he himself the a then 35-year-old Julie Schwartz called, had put a personal ad in the Seattle Weekly that John had answered, was turned by John modest small car chose the ugliest vehicle at the University of Washington faculty parking lot and its expansive curiosity. He read physics and mathematics and history and held a small spiral-bound notebook in his pocket, which he used jot to say things to his companions that fascinates him.
They spoke eagerly; it was as if she had always known each other. In the following months, she moved closer and closer, continue by building a fulfilling love relationship subsequent stages. John learned about the unhappy life at home in Michigan grew that Julie had driven to spend by yourself as much time in the woods, and Julie learned to understand John's wish deep biggest secrets of the earth, as the nature of time.
Although they fear-they'd both were previously they divorced, to their admiration for each other, Johns for the courage Julie in her therapy practice was familiar, by the "sickest of the sickest" schizophrenics and Vietnam veterans on Skid Row, and Julie for Johns absurdist sense of humor. They kayaked together. They joined a synagogue. They married and had a daughter, to fulfill a longtime Johns dreams, and bought a house on a wooded island three hours north of Seattle, fulfilling a dream of Julie. They fought. They visited couple therapy. Through their conflict they came today more love.